The story of David and Jonathan is one of the best biblical examples of durable friendship (built to last and makes you better). Every man needs one or two of these friendships in his life, because they’re both life-giving and life-saving.
Here’s my story (and there’s a twist at the end).
A few years ago, I was in the epicenter of a season of loss and self-doubt. My leadership at work had been stuck for more than a year and I was losing faith in myself, so my teammates and other longtime supporters understandably started to move on to other things. I felt like a failure in so many areas, but I knew better days were coming, or, at least, that’s what I prayed.
Then, an acquaintance of mine called me up and asked to have coffee. Honestly, I didn’t feel like meeting, because I presumed he wanted to add to the negativity I already experienced from these kinds of meetings. But instead, he said something like, “I want to help you get through this…I am here for you no matter what.”
What? You’re “for” me? No matter what?
A turning point happened right then, not only for that season, but for the rest of my life. Because, in a time when I seemed so messy and resistible, this man loved and committed to be with me and for me. God used that friendship, and others like it, to help me walk out of the swamp and back to high ground again. God used this friend’s words and confidence to help me believe once more. And now, years later, he is one of my “Jonathans.”
Every man needs a durable friend. So here’s the twist: Don’t look for it to show up for you, go be that guy for someone. Risk him pushing you away, but don’t let that possibility stop you from saving a guy and letting him do the same for you.