If you are married, you need counseling. Reread that, because you didn’t catch it at first.

Yes, most people believe that gifted and/or professional guidance is only for relationships in trouble. Not true. Just like anything we expect to last or run smoothly over time (house, job, car, etc.), our marriage requires the same routine and intentional maintenance. Sure, we may figure out and possibly adjust hidden dysfunctions over years of trial-and-error. But why waste those years spinning wheels and piling on more junk, when a trusted counselor or wise confidant can get to the point in a few hours and then offer solutions to change?

I know what you’re asking, what will the neighbors think?  They probably won’t think anything other than you maintain your marriage as well as you do your lawn. But, if anyone does raise their eyebrow when you tell them about this priority, it is great opportunity to ask them why they do not make it one in their marriage.

Another hesitation might also be you just don’t want to spend the time or money on a counselor if things don’t seem critical. Fair enough. That is why I suggest healthy couples just schedule it once a year as an annual event. You schedule holidays, birthdays, vacations, etc., so put a yearly visit to the counselor or confidant on the calendar, as well.

So guys, if you really want to score major matrimony points, come home one day and say, “I think our marriage is amazing, but I’d love to keep improving, so I scheduled us some time with (insert local Christ-centered counselor or trusted couple here) in two weeks.   When she finally revives from fainting, she will want reassurance that things really are cool and then she’ll overpower you with uncommon desire. Okay, maybe I’m presuming a little, but she will be excited.

Get counseling. Why? Because you are married.